I believe communities such as lolita_fucks
, & the like do a disservice to the Lolita fashion community. There is absolutly no reason to belittle, mock, berate, & just plain be rude to people who are trying Lolita fashion & to do so discourages people from attempting the style. It makes it appear that if you can't do Lolita style absolutly perfectly, don't look like you stepped directly out of the Gothic & Lolita Bibles, GosuRori, or other Lolita fasion magaiznes, then what you are wearing is utter crap.
So many of the unspoken rules on lolita_fucks
are so arbitrary, but if you break them, there is a tendency to be blackballed. Examples?:
1) Things bought from on-line seamstresses are crap- In The Starlight & AppleSugar come to mind.
2) You're not allowed to find anything Lolita-inspired at retailers in the US, such as Hot Topic or Target.
3) You shouldn't be a fan of anime & manga & especially should not see the clothing designs in anime or manga as Lolita-inspired- Paradise Kiss has nothing to do with Lolita-fashion or EGA-Fashion. The outfits Chii wears in Chobits certainly aren't Lolita-inspired. The dolls in Rozen Maiden look nothing like Lolitas (after all, Lolitas are never suppose to resemble porceline dolls or BJD). The fashions in Godchild look nothing like Lolita. The list goes on.
4) If you buy something that fits a Western body type, it's generally not considered "Lolita enough" because the cut is different than what you would find in Japan. However, if you wear something with a cut from Japan, it is often ill-fitting & so you get mocked. Damned if you do, damned if you don't
It also seems that the lolita_fucks
-er does not take into account that... this is not Japan or Asia & as such there are going to be noticable differences between Asian Lolitas & American Lolitas:
1) Sizing is going to be different. Westerners in general simply are not built like Easterners, therefore the fashions that look good on Asians will be less likely to look good on Westerners. But if you get something adapted to fit a western body, it becomes not "Lolita enough" & you are blackballed. Again, damned if you do, damned if you don't.
2) Western culture has a *lot* greater Gothic influence, so it's natural that Lolita fashion in the West will take some significant influence from Gothic fashion. But when this happens, lolita_fucks
-ers become disgusted.
For these reasons, I was actually disturbed by all the rules for the Novala UnBirthday Party. It gave an aire of fakery, like it was meant to say, "HEY LOOK AT US! SEE??? IF YOU HELP BRING LOLITA FASHION & BRANDS TO THE US THEY CAN BE SOLD EXACTLY THE SAME WAY AS IN JAPAN & WHEN WE WEAR THEM IT WILL LOOK EXACTLY LIKE IT DOES IN JAPAN OUT OF THE MAGAZINES! SEE SEE SEE!?"
I know a lot of the lolita_fucks
-ers were thrilled with this because it forced submission to the tight-as-a-corset rules that they love, but I think it is a true disservice to the designers in Japan to let them think that's how it would work, as well as to Lolitas in the West who will be excited to see the boutiques but still could never look right in the clothing sold there.
If we want Lolita fashion to expand in the West then it is not alright to mock people to the point of discouragement for trying it. We can't expect that the same things that will work for Lolita fashion in Asia will work here. We can't expect that Lolita fashion & culture will remain absolutly untouched by Western culture & fashion as it begins to be seen here. As much as there are rules for all fashion types, Lolita included, they shouldn't be so rigid that it becomes a clone of the "better than thou" snobby preppy cliques from high school.